10 Life Lessons To Unlearn

I've read an article by Martha Beck in my O Newsletter. This article, 10 Life Lessons To Unlearn was another interesting article. After reading the article, I had what Oprah would call an "Aha moment". Without knowing that I was unlearning these lessons. I am at that point in my life where I am unlearning and at the same time realizing the lessons being taught by unlearning these lessons, if that makes sense.

Here are the 10 lessons that according to Martha Beck we should be unlearning:

1. Problems are bad. An awful relationship is teaching us what love means.
2. It's important to stay happy. Focus on something miserable. Think, "I must stay happy!" Then say, "It's okay to be sad as I need to be."
3. I'm irreparably damaged by my past. Take an issue that's been worrying you and think of 3 reasons that belief may be wrong. Your brain will begin to let go.
4. Working hard leads to success. Play not work is the key to success.
5. Success is the opposite of failure. Success is built from failure.
6. It matters what people think of me. No it doesn't.
7. We should think rationally about our decisions. Instead of weighing pros and cons intellectually, notice your physical response to each option. Pay attention to when your body tenses and relaxes and make a decision based on your physical response.
8. The pretty girls get all the good stuff. While everyone's looking at them, virtually no one sees them.
9. If all my wishes came true right now, life would be perfect. Good fortune has side effects: rehab clinics, divorce courts and jails. To attract something you want, become joyful as you think that thing would make you. The joy, not the thing, is the point.
10. Loss is terrible. If you've abandoned yourself in effort to keep anyone or anything else, unlearn that pattern. Live your truth, losses be damned.

Makes you go hmmmm. It always takes for either someone or something to point out our "growing up" lessons. We tend to think that we are doing the wrong things when it comes to taking control of our lives and then, well for me, I read an article like this and realize that I'm doing things right and it's okay to think the way that I'm thinking. It's all about me becoming who I'm going to become and realizing what is and what isn't important. Sometimes what we think is important isn't necessarily that important and it's better to just let it go and begin to live our lives.